Devotional: Pure Sex
by Mike Fragassi
by Mike Fragassi
WHERE ARE WE?
Before men experience victory over sexual sin, they’re hurting and confused. Why can’t I win at this? They think.
As the fight wears on and the losses pile higher, we begin to doubt everything about ourselves, even our
salvation. At best, we think that we’re deeply flawed. At worst, evil persons. We feel very alone, since men speak
little of these things.
The test: Pg 26 of the book
“I have found that sexual sins are the termites in the walls and foundations of today’s marriages”
What does Jesus’ word tell us about His deep concern for your thought life?
You have heard that it was said, “Do not commit adultery”. But I tell you that anyone who looks at women
lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. (Matthew 5:27-28).
(1Corinthians 6:13, Ephesians 5:3, Colossians 3:5)
(Romans 8:33-35, 37-39) What comfort do you take in Paul’s words to the Roman believers? & how does this
passage relate to your feelings of guilt when you’ve given in to lust?
Why do you think pursuing sexual integrity is such a controversial topic?
How realistic is the pursuit for you?
How aware are you of sensual images around you?
What has been you way of dealing with it, or not dealing with it?
How would you talk this over with God? Write your response as a prayer to Him.
HOW WE GOT THERE
Do you agree that sex can be a way of trying to escape inner pain?
To what extent do you agree or disagree with the book’s contention that, for most men, our sexual sin is based
on pleasure highs rather than true addictions?
Do you agree with the author’s advice to wives to talk about it together?
(1) For most of us becoming ensnared by sexual sin happened easily and naturally, like slipping off an icy log….
Perhaps you’ve mustered the hope that some day you would be free from sexual sin and expected to grow out of
it as naturally as you grew into it like out growing acne. Perhaps you waited with each birthday for your sexual
impurity to clear up. It never did. (2)Later you assumed you’d be freed naturally through marriage. But as for
many of us that didn’t happen either.
What do you think are some of the reasons that we started down the road to sexual impurity?
How can you tell when you’re becoming vulnerable to the darkness?
In the past what has been the best motivator or encourager, to keep you from sexual impurity?
What have you been to strengthen this motivation in you life?
Take a moment to envision how God might use you in the future to minister to another man regarding sexual
purity
CHOOSING VICTORY
When you talk to courageous World II Veterans, they say they don’t feel like heroes they simply had a job to do.
When the landing craft ramps fell open, they swallowed hard and said, "It’s time. Time to fight."
In your struggle with sexual impurity, isn’t it time?
Sure fighting back will be hard. But life and home are under a withering barrage of machine-gun sexuality that
rakes the landscape mercilessly. Right now you’re in a landing craft, inching closer to shore and a show down.
God has given you the weapons and trained you for battle. You can’t stay in the landing craft forever.
(2Peter 1:2- 4 ) According to Peter what exactly has God given you? When have you most powerfully sensed the
glory and goodness of Jesus in your life?
If we have everything we need for Godliness, what is holding us back from constant, lifelong sexual purity?
In the heat of sexual temptation, what will it mean for you to not “offer your body to sin” What will offering yourself
to God require at that point
(Read top of page 44 study guide)
How angry are you about the battle?
On a scale from one to ten, how convinced are you that God’s will is for to win the battle and be sexual pure?
On a scale from one to ten, to what extent would you say you truly hate the sin of sexual impurity in any form?
(Read page 45: Admit It)
Admit it you love your sexual highs, but slavery engulfs you. Is the love worth loathing?
Look in the mirror. Are you proud of your sexual fantasizing? Or do you feel degraded viewing lingerie ads or
sex scenes in films? Sexual speaking you have a low-grade sexual fever. It doesn’t disable you, but you aren’t
healthy either. You can sort of function normally but you cant really push hard. Basically you just get by! And if
this fever doesn’t break, you’ll never fully function as a Christian. Like the prodigal son, you need to come to
your senses and make a decision.